Body, Mind, and Change

If we don’t change, we don’t grow. If we don’t grow, we are not really living – Gail Sheehy Thinking about relationships a lot recently, and particularly about changes. If our mind and body are integrally connected then what applies to the body should also apply to the mind, right? [also see Holistic Medicine]. Because we know that our bodies change pretty radically over time, and to some extent we know the brain/mind does –…

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Lessons from Autumn Trees

We should be more like trees. At least in terms of self-care. I watch the leaves lose their greens, transform into yellows and oranges and pink and red. Then they fall. Why? What next? There will be less sunshine in the Winter. Why waste the energy trying to get energy from the sun? It is better to reserve the energy at the core, the body, the roots. The rest? The branches and twigs. Some can…

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suicidal temporal relativity – why small acts matter

Reach Out. Check In. Save a Life.

According to one site, the horse-fly top speed is 145 kph (90 mph) – yes, really – but if we were that size, traveling at that speed, it would feel like 6,525 kph (4,054 mph). It would feel faster than supersonic flight. The experience of things depends on the context – size, place, and time. Time, for me, is especially interesting because of it’s relationship to suicidal thinking. One experimental research study with college students…

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Finding support among peers

It is often helpful to meet with others who have similar experiences.  In many cases peer help can be found through support groups.  Check out: Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance (DBSA) – for people with depression or bipolar disorder National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) – for people with a mental illness and their families Attemptsurvivors.com collects information about support groups for people who have lived through a suicide attempt or suicidal crisis. Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) Narcotics…

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Getting help from therapy

Does talking about problems really help? Yes. Sometimes your quality of life might be lower because you tend to have strong emotional reactions, or maybe you take action without thinking carefully, or you are tend to spend a lot of time alone.  A therapist can suggest ways to control your emotions, or be calmer in stressful situations, or build a support network of trustworthy people.  If you’re at college or graduate school, then an on-campus Counseling…

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Suicide loss resources

It is difficult to lose someone you care about, perhaps even more so when it is by suicide. Here are a few useful sites with information you can use right away: Suicide Loss Survivors page at the American Association of Suicidology, a professional organization that focuses on suicide. Coping with Suicide Loss at the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, a nonprofit for education and research related to suicide. Coping with Loss (by suicide) at Suicide Awareness / Voices of…

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Someone needs help right now

On behalf of your friend or family member, thank you.  It’s great to have someone who cares enough to look for help. If this is an emergency, find out their location in as much detail as possible and call 9-1-1 (in the U.S.; here’s a list for other countries). Know what to expect to make the call go as smoothly as possible. It’s okay to be scared – it’s normal.  Even after almost two decades in suicide prevention, it…

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Are they thinking about suicide?

Thank you for picking up on the clues that something may be wrong.  Many times people just dismiss that feeling.  Your attention may help prevent a crisis from escalating. If you sense that something may be wrong.  Ask.  Are you thinking about suicide? or Are you thinking about killing yourself?  Research shows that asking such questions does not make people more suicidal.  It does put talking about suicide right out on the table, so always be prepared…

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Are they at higher risk for suicide?

Maybe you’re a little concerned about someone, but you don’t think it is a crisis yet.  What should you be looking for? There has been a lot of research on what may be tied to suicide.  In research they are called “risk factors.” In general, the more risk factors someone has, the greater the chance that they may become suicidal.  The risk factors can be divided into short term and long term risk.  Long term risk can be…

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