If we don’t change, we don’t grow. If we don’t grow, we are not really living – Gail Sheehy
Thinking about relationships a lot recently, and particularly about changes.
If our mind and body are integrally connected then what applies to the body should also apply to the mind, right? [also see Holistic Medicine]. Because we know that our bodies change pretty radically over time, and to some extent we know the brain/mind does – especially before someone becomes a young adult. The body, we accept, continues to experience changes. If you take medicines or supplements, or hit certain phases, you know that your needs change over time (Check out US report on Dietary Guidelines).
We say it all the time (I changed my mind), at least for smaller topics. Yet, people often believe that many parts of the mind and some key relationships should remain constant after youth. That doesn’t make sense to me. The mental, social, and emotional needs will also shift over time. For some, the changes will be minimal or gradual. For others, the change will be radical and swift. I would suspect that when someone faces an existential crisis as significant as life itself, the result may very well be life-altering.
Growth means change. Post-traumatic growth, will probably require some life changes and might mean seeking out new supports.